Boyhood Sucks

Modern Classic
Boyhood the film that was shot over 12 y ears –using the same cast-shows what growing up feels and looks like from the bottom up. Nearly three hours, brilliant. Seeing children grow up in three hours is of course interesting in any home movie, but seeing their parents have car crash relationships makes it doubly so. Adults behaving badly, talking grade A hog wash, seeing children go through all the sexual and other tensions, and so the film goes. No real story line its just the very best home movie you ever saw.
But like all classic art it does not work on one level. One moral is that whatever adults say to children is often so irrelevant to what the child is going though, undermined by the adult’s obvious hypocrisy or just goofy behaviour. So quite understandably children largely ignore what they are ordered and mumble sorry everytime there is a problem which happens nearly every day.
Of course there is the development of the adults. The hippy dad who turns up occasionally to give the kids a good time goes heroically straight. The long suffering mother who doesn’t have relationships but collects victim points goes the other way and then like every teenager worries bout the meaning of it all.
In-between the hero of the piece moves towards adulthood powered by all the angst and doubt with would make Salinger and Roth proud.
But as a parent this film was a delightful torture and a great source of embarrassment. And yet.although I bullshitted for Jesus during my kids childhood they turned out OK. As did the hero of Boyhood. So how is that.
Expectations. Through the normal mammal behaviour of the young copying their parents, through their friends, school and community children pick up a set of expectations. For most that is the driving force for some a hurdle they cannot jump. But because of these expectations and despite all the child and teenage rebellion which our culture encourages most children, despite showing all kinds of individual promise turn out remarkably similar to their parents.
And then there is peer pressure. They want to pick uo girl/boys and have independence. They need transport and cash,that means a job. They learn discipline and control, obedience and learning what real authority means. Gotcha.
They want good jobs. They have to get the grades. Which ,means doing their homework and getting to university. Uni is also of course a preferred rite of passage which most desire. In order to get there they must bow the head somewhat. Gotcha.
So the moral for parents is. Within reason let it all go. Just say do you want to go out and have a good time,go to university and have an easy life. Its your choice amigo. Most know what to do. That’s the moral of Boyhood. They get there in spite of us. Which is just as well.
Link to trailer.

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2 Responses to Boyhood Sucks

  1. David of Bedchester says:

    That may be your verdict on yourself but I suggest the Mother of your children has an alternative view!

  2. Michael Jones says:

    Boyhood will lose to “The Imitation Game” for Best Picture. Boyhood is not a Motion Picture it is an after school special filmed over 12 years as a desperate gimmick by a “C” grade director. The Academy represents experienced sophisticated artists who will pick the Best Picture to represent us to the World. Boyhood isn’t even close to Best Picture. Can you really put Boyhood in the same category as “Schindler’s List”? Seriously?

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